Category Archives: Relationships

Thoughts about relationships, or my relationship to relationships…

Polishing the Heart

The stone pictured above was given to me by a friend who collected it on an Oregon beach. It’s been polished smooth by rubbing up against other stones over countless cycles of the moon; all rough edges taken away. It … Continue reading

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nineteen things I wish I had known early in life

One day when I was very young, a warm and benevolent voice said these things to me: Wisdom is distilled pain. Everybody experiences loss, betrayal, and trauma. You can turn away from pain through denial or blame, but both keep … Continue reading

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What is a conscious relationship?

A dear friend asked that question on facebook a few days ago. She created a private group and invited 80 or so people just to talk about this question. I was reluctant to respond, not because I had nothing to … Continue reading

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The Tragedy of Gender Roles

The older I get, the more aware I become of the pain and suffering caused by gender roles. They seem to cut both genders off from true power and the ability to experience the joy and beauty of life. When … Continue reading

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Wild Things

We come out of the womb as Wild Things, with a diverse set of untamed energies, some of which are contradictory, and all of which are part of our life force. Through the socialization process, these energies get tamed, inhibited, … Continue reading

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The Disease of Niceness

Act 1, Scene 1: Mother: “Sally, give that toy back to your younger sister, she was playing with it first” . Sally: “But I want to play with it!” Mother: “Sally, don’t be selfish, no one will like you if … Continue reading

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You are the person you’ve been waiting for

Self love is something we all understand in our bones, yet few grasp consciously. We gravitate to people who love themselves because we want to learn to love ourselves too; they regard themselves with love and we want to learn … Continue reading

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