Category Archives: Relationships

Thoughts about relationships, or my relationship to relationships…

Polishing the Heart

The stone pictured above was given to me by a friend who collected it on an Oregon beach. It’s been polished smooth by rubbing up against other stones over countless cycles of the moon; all rough edges taken away. It … Continue reading

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nineteen things I wish I had known early in life

One day when I was very young, a warm and benevolent voice said these things to me: Wisdom is distilled pain. Everybody experiences loss, betrayal, and trauma. You can turn away from pain through denial or blame, but both keep … Continue reading

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What is a conscious relationship?

A dear friend asked that question on facebook a few days ago. She created a private group and invited 80 or so people just to talk about this question. I was reluctant to respond, not because I had nothing to … Continue reading

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The Tragedy of Gender Roles

The older I get, the more aware I become of the pain and suffering caused by gender roles. They seem to cut both genders off from true power and the ability to experience the joy and beauty of life. When … Continue reading

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Wild Things

We come out of the womb as Wild Things, with a diverse set of untamed energies, some of which are contradictory, and all of which are part of our life force. Through the socialization process, these energies get tamed, inhibited, … Continue reading

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The Disease of Niceness

Act 1, Scene 1: Mother: “Sally, give that toy back to your younger sister, she was playing with it first” . Sally: “But I want to play with it!” Mother: “Sally, don’t be selfish, no one will like you if … Continue reading

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You are the person you’ve been waiting for

Self love is something we all understand in our bones, yet few grasp consciously. We gravitate to people who love themselves because we want to learn to love ourselves too; they regard themselves with love and we want to learn … Continue reading

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Luminosity Behind the Veil

My father is dying. He’s had heart trouble for years, getting a quadruple bypass, and later a pacemaker; he even tried an experimental stem cell therapy. Now his body is giving up as his liver and kidneys are also failing. … Continue reading

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Army of the Heart

My heart is in a thousand pieces, smoldering like remnants from some supernova explosion, an explosion from years ago. Each glowing piece seems to have it’s own sentience, part grizzled veteran, part newborn. And they are all waking from a … Continue reading

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Divine Femine, Sacred Masculine: A Call to Integration

Growing up in the 1960’s, I got exposed to the beginnings of the women’s movement. Women seemed so angry at men, burning bra’s and such. I didn’t really understand it, but I knew I was a boy, and would someday … Continue reading

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