We can plant the seed, cover it with fertile soil, water it, and place it in the sunlight, but we can’t make it grow. If the seed sprouts, we can continue to care for it, but we can’t make it grow faster that it wants to. Too much water and we will drown it. Too little and it will dry up. Too little sunlight will stunt it’s growth, and too much will burn the leaves. Through neglect or intentional harm, it is really easy to kill the plant. There is nothing we can do to force it to grow. It is supported by our care, but it grows by grace.
Relationships are a lot like this too. We can’t force someone to like us or love us. Whether it grows or not is out of our control. We can only provide care to nurture its growth. To care for a relationship, provide attention, acceptance, affection and appreciation, and allow the person and the relationship to grow and change, as it will. Relationships are easy to kill by neglect or intentional harm. If a relationship grows, it is by grace, and not through force of will. Appreciate your relationships, for they are a gift. Allow them to change, for that is their nature. When a relationship ends, grieve the loss, but be happy for what it’s given you.